Years ago, I read a book called (I think), "How to talk so kids will listen, and how to listen so kids will talk." It changed the way I spoke to my boys by encouraging positive reinforcement rather than negative nagging (something I was good at, I'm sorry to say). This post reminds me of that thought process.
In fact, I will try this with my students that seem to be struggling that I've "should" all over.
Dr Albert Ellis (Rational Emotive Behavioral Therapy) wrote and taught extensively on the topic of eliminating 'shoulds' from one's thinking and vocabulary. His book on staying rational in an irrational world is highly recommended reading.
Years ago, I read a book called (I think), "How to talk so kids will listen, and how to listen so kids will talk." It changed the way I spoke to my boys by encouraging positive reinforcement rather than negative nagging (something I was good at, I'm sorry to say). This post reminds me of that thought process.
In fact, I will try this with my students that seem to be struggling that I've "should" all over.
So true. A useless and guilt-inducing word.
Dr Albert Ellis (Rational Emotive Behavioral Therapy) wrote and taught extensively on the topic of eliminating 'shoulds' from one's thinking and vocabulary. His book on staying rational in an irrational world is highly recommended reading.